"The most beautiful people we have known are those who have known defeat, known suffering, known struggle, known loss, and have found their way out of the depths. These persons have an appreciation, a sensitivity and an understanding of life that fills them with compassions, gentleness, and a deep loving concern. Beautiful people do not just happen."
"The ultimate lesson all of us have to learn is unconditional love, which includes not only others but ourselves as well." Dr. Elisabeth Kübler-Ross
Saturday, May 3, 2008
Friday, May 2, 2008
dun worry, b happy :)
Worries are an illusion. They make you live in the future, giving you the belief that you are very busy and takes you away from the present. Worries are an excuse for not doing what you really have to be doing. A reactive person appears very busy and worried. With worry, no problems can be resolved. A proactive person focuses attention on the present, acts with initiative, and the understanding that being calm and free from worry is far more effective.
~ Brahma Kumaris, Mt Abu.
an affirmation for letting go
An Affirmation for Letting Go
Larry James
I am willing to trust. I know that to the degree I am willing to give up my search for a healthy love relationship, I can have it. I know I can have whatever I am ready and willing to receive. Individual receptivity is everything. Without it, nothing changes. With it, all things are possible. I no longer insist upon my choice.
I know that the only thing I lose when I let go of something I am afraid to live without is the fear itself. I am stronger than anything that frightens me!
I let go of the past, and I am free to think clearly and positively in the present. I am not my past.
Letting go is the natural release which always follows the realization that holding on is an energy drain and it hurts. Letting go happens effortlessly when there is no other choice. Letting go does not mean giving up.
* LoveNote. . . A life without love in it is like a heap of ashes upon a deserted hearth -- with the fire dead, the laughter stilled, and the light extinguished. - Frank P. Tebbetts
Letting go is a journey that never ends. Never. It only begins -- over and over again -- each time I can glimpse something higher than my own painful certainty over who I think I am. There is always something higher; a life beyond the limits of my present sight.
To see what is farther I must be willing to lift my eyes from their present point of focus. Release always follows revelation and real revelation is always a glimpse of something that was only just out of sight.
I know that stress in my love relationship exists because I insist! What I resist, persists. I am tied to whatever I avoid.
* LoveNote. . . The heart loves, but moods have no loyalty. Moods should be heard but never danced to. - Hugh Prather
It is a mistaken belief that I must push my love relationship in the direction I choose that keeps me in a strained and unhappy relationship with it. Reality has its own effortless course, and I can either embrace its way or struggle endlessly with mine.
I do not need power to flow.
I let go of that part of myself that is certain it is better to suffer and feel like someone than it is to just let go and quietly be no one. I give birth to a new me that never has to hold on to anything because it is already everything.
I dare to walk away from all of the familiar but useless mental and emotional relationships that give me a temporary but unsatisfactory sense of self. My true identity is calling me and to hear it I must be willing to endure, for as long as necessary, the fear of self-uncertainty.
This form of seeming self-abandonment eventually turns into my greatest pleasure as it becomes increasingly evident that the only thing certain about fear is that it will always compromise me. When it comes to who I really am, there is no compromise.
Let go of the past. The past is yesterday. It is irretrievable. When you relate to the past, you relate to no one or any thing. You are literally talking to yourself. No one else is listening. You have already heard all you have to say about that, so, let go.
A Course in Miracles says, "You cannot really not let go what has already gone. It must be, therefore, that you are maintaining the illusion that it has not gone because you think it serves some purpose that you want fulfilled."
It is certifiable insanity to conjure up your own reality based on the past and relate to it, rather than to relate to the present which is the only reality.
* LoveNote. . . Relationships are part of a vast plan for our enlightenment, the Holy Spirit's blueprint by which each individual soul is led to greater awareness and expanded love. Relationships are the Holy Spirit's laboratories in which he brings together people who have the maximal opportunity for mutual growth. - Marianne Williamson
I say goodbye to the past and hello to the present.
I am enthusiastic about who I am becoming! I know that no one sincerely asks for a new life until they are thoroughly dissatisfied with the old one. I am and I let go. When I allow myself to let go of what is old, I stay true to what is new.
I believe that as with all insight, higher understanding itself contains not only the instructions I must follow, but the strength I will need to carry them out.
Starting life over again is the key to a new me. I see the beauty and significance of starting over - over and over and over. Every present moment is always new and new is always right now! The new dies to the ever-new in an endless celebration of Life.
This is it!
I live in the present. I never let the past dictate the direction of the present moment. I give my best to my endeavors.
What lies ahead for me can only be good.
True peace and harmony are a part of who I am.
I have come to the realization that what is possible for me to become only truly changes when I am willing to see what is impossible for me to continue being.
My true nature is already fully independent and flying freely. I have found my wings.
I let go and let God. And so it is.
Thank you, Father!
* LoveNote. . . He that loveth not knoweth not God; for God is Love. - I John 4:8
Larry James
I am willing to trust. I know that to the degree I am willing to give up my search for a healthy love relationship, I can have it. I know I can have whatever I am ready and willing to receive. Individual receptivity is everything. Without it, nothing changes. With it, all things are possible. I no longer insist upon my choice.
I know that the only thing I lose when I let go of something I am afraid to live without is the fear itself. I am stronger than anything that frightens me!
I let go of the past, and I am free to think clearly and positively in the present. I am not my past.
Letting go is the natural release which always follows the realization that holding on is an energy drain and it hurts. Letting go happens effortlessly when there is no other choice. Letting go does not mean giving up.
* LoveNote. . . A life without love in it is like a heap of ashes upon a deserted hearth -- with the fire dead, the laughter stilled, and the light extinguished. - Frank P. Tebbetts
Letting go is a journey that never ends. Never. It only begins -- over and over again -- each time I can glimpse something higher than my own painful certainty over who I think I am. There is always something higher; a life beyond the limits of my present sight.
To see what is farther I must be willing to lift my eyes from their present point of focus. Release always follows revelation and real revelation is always a glimpse of something that was only just out of sight.
I know that stress in my love relationship exists because I insist! What I resist, persists. I am tied to whatever I avoid.
* LoveNote. . . The heart loves, but moods have no loyalty. Moods should be heard but never danced to. - Hugh Prather
It is a mistaken belief that I must push my love relationship in the direction I choose that keeps me in a strained and unhappy relationship with it. Reality has its own effortless course, and I can either embrace its way or struggle endlessly with mine.
I do not need power to flow.
I let go of that part of myself that is certain it is better to suffer and feel like someone than it is to just let go and quietly be no one. I give birth to a new me that never has to hold on to anything because it is already everything.
I dare to walk away from all of the familiar but useless mental and emotional relationships that give me a temporary but unsatisfactory sense of self. My true identity is calling me and to hear it I must be willing to endure, for as long as necessary, the fear of self-uncertainty.
This form of seeming self-abandonment eventually turns into my greatest pleasure as it becomes increasingly evident that the only thing certain about fear is that it will always compromise me. When it comes to who I really am, there is no compromise.
Let go of the past. The past is yesterday. It is irretrievable. When you relate to the past, you relate to no one or any thing. You are literally talking to yourself. No one else is listening. You have already heard all you have to say about that, so, let go.
A Course in Miracles says, "You cannot really not let go what has already gone. It must be, therefore, that you are maintaining the illusion that it has not gone because you think it serves some purpose that you want fulfilled."
It is certifiable insanity to conjure up your own reality based on the past and relate to it, rather than to relate to the present which is the only reality.
* LoveNote. . . Relationships are part of a vast plan for our enlightenment, the Holy Spirit's blueprint by which each individual soul is led to greater awareness and expanded love. Relationships are the Holy Spirit's laboratories in which he brings together people who have the maximal opportunity for mutual growth. - Marianne Williamson
I say goodbye to the past and hello to the present.
I am enthusiastic about who I am becoming! I know that no one sincerely asks for a new life until they are thoroughly dissatisfied with the old one. I am and I let go. When I allow myself to let go of what is old, I stay true to what is new.
I believe that as with all insight, higher understanding itself contains not only the instructions I must follow, but the strength I will need to carry them out.
Starting life over again is the key to a new me. I see the beauty and significance of starting over - over and over and over. Every present moment is always new and new is always right now! The new dies to the ever-new in an endless celebration of Life.
This is it!
I live in the present. I never let the past dictate the direction of the present moment. I give my best to my endeavors.
What lies ahead for me can only be good.
True peace and harmony are a part of who I am.
I have come to the realization that what is possible for me to become only truly changes when I am willing to see what is impossible for me to continue being.
My true nature is already fully independent and flying freely. I have found my wings.
I let go and let God. And so it is.
Thank you, Father!
* LoveNote. . . He that loveth not knoweth not God; for God is Love. - I John 4:8
Thursday, May 1, 2008
the art of letting go ..
Ps 16 : 5 Lord, you have assigned me my portion and my cup you have made my lot secure.
When God has determined that something is mine, I have no need to guard it in the sense of watching it for fear it will escape. That’s God’s job. On the other hand, when God has decided that something is not for me, then I must submit to his plan and willing to release it. I will need God’s supernatural intervention to help me to let go, but I know his empowering grace is always available for the asking. I mean, if that person is the one God prepared for you, that person will desire you back when he/she recognise the real you and your value. If not, why being bothered about losing what is not from God? You do not have to compete for it, so resist the urge to compete against others for ‘their’ destiny.
Not only in romantic relationship, but in everything in life is the same. Will I be upset because something I could not grab slipping out of my hand, or will I trust God’s sovereignty in giving me what is best for me? Where is God in the picture? Rather I heard of numerous testimonies saying “It wasn’t me, I know. It was God!” for getting that promotion, for receiving that high mark in studies, for doing something incredible that he never thought was possible!
Romans 8 : 28 we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him.
Isaiah 14 : 27 For the Lord almighty has purposed, and who can thwart him? His hand is stretched out, and who can turn it back?
Even when Pharaoh was refusing to let Israelites go free, God was in control. It was him who allowed all things happen. Even when all the disasters stuck this godly man name Job, God was behind the scene, knowing all things and still in control of all things. There is a season and reason in everything God allowed happening, to those who love him. Whatever God has for you, you will get it.
2 Cor 9:8 God is able to make all grace abound to you, so that in all things at all times; having all that you need, you will abound in every good work.
When God has determined that something is mine, I have no need to guard it in the sense of watching it for fear it will escape. That’s God’s job. On the other hand, when God has decided that something is not for me, then I must submit to his plan and willing to release it. I will need God’s supernatural intervention to help me to let go, but I know his empowering grace is always available for the asking. I mean, if that person is the one God prepared for you, that person will desire you back when he/she recognise the real you and your value. If not, why being bothered about losing what is not from God? You do not have to compete for it, so resist the urge to compete against others for ‘their’ destiny.
Not only in romantic relationship, but in everything in life is the same. Will I be upset because something I could not grab slipping out of my hand, or will I trust God’s sovereignty in giving me what is best for me? Where is God in the picture? Rather I heard of numerous testimonies saying “It wasn’t me, I know. It was God!” for getting that promotion, for receiving that high mark in studies, for doing something incredible that he never thought was possible!
Romans 8 : 28 we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him.
Isaiah 14 : 27 For the Lord almighty has purposed, and who can thwart him? His hand is stretched out, and who can turn it back?
Even when Pharaoh was refusing to let Israelites go free, God was in control. It was him who allowed all things happen. Even when all the disasters stuck this godly man name Job, God was behind the scene, knowing all things and still in control of all things. There is a season and reason in everything God allowed happening, to those who love him. Whatever God has for you, you will get it.
2 Cor 9:8 God is able to make all grace abound to you, so that in all things at all times; having all that you need, you will abound in every good work.
realize ur potential
A certain man planted a rose and watered it faithfully and before it blossomed, he examined it.
He saw the bud that would soon blossom, but noticed thorns upon the stem and he thought, "How can any beautiful flower come from a plant burdened with so many sharp thorns? Saddened by this thought, he neglected to water the rose, and just before it was ready to bloom... it died.
So it is with many people. Within every soul there is a rose. The God-like qualities planted in us at birth, grow amid the thorns of our faults. Many of us look at ourselves and see only the thorns, the defects.
We despair, thinking that nothing good can possibly come from us. We neglect to water the good within us, and eventually it dies. We never realize our potential.
Some people do not see the rose within themselves; someone else must show it to them. One of the greatest gifts a person can possess is to be able to reach past the thorns of another, and find the rose within them.
This is one of the characteristic of love... to look at a person, know their true faults and accepting that person into your life... all the while recognizing the nobility in their soul. Help others to realize they can overcome their faults. If we show them the "rose" within themselves, they will conquer their thorns. Only then will they blossom many times over.
He saw the bud that would soon blossom, but noticed thorns upon the stem and he thought, "How can any beautiful flower come from a plant burdened with so many sharp thorns? Saddened by this thought, he neglected to water the rose, and just before it was ready to bloom... it died.
So it is with many people. Within every soul there is a rose. The God-like qualities planted in us at birth, grow amid the thorns of our faults. Many of us look at ourselves and see only the thorns, the defects.
We despair, thinking that nothing good can possibly come from us. We neglect to water the good within us, and eventually it dies. We never realize our potential.
Some people do not see the rose within themselves; someone else must show it to them. One of the greatest gifts a person can possess is to be able to reach past the thorns of another, and find the rose within them.
This is one of the characteristic of love... to look at a person, know their true faults and accepting that person into your life... all the while recognizing the nobility in their soul. Help others to realize they can overcome their faults. If we show them the "rose" within themselves, they will conquer their thorns. Only then will they blossom many times over.
The Sculptor's Attitude
I woke up early today, excited over all I get to do before the clock strikes midnight.
I have responsibilities to fulfill today. I am important. My job is to choose what kind of day I am going to have.
Today I can complain because the weather is rainy or...I can be thankful that the grass is getting watered for free.
Today I can feel sad that I don't have more money or...I can be glad that my finances encourage me to plan my purchases wisely and guide me away from waste.
Today I can grumble about my health or...I can rejoice that I am alive.
Today I can lament over all that my parents didn't give me when I was growing up or...I can feel grateful that they allowed me to be born.
Today I can cry because roses have thorns or...I can celebrate that thorns have roses.
Today I can mourn my lack of friends or ...I can excitedly embark upon a quest to discover new relationships.
Today I can whine because I have to go to work or...I can shout for joy because I have a job to do.
Today I can complain because I have to go to school or...eagerly open my mind and fill it with rich new tidbits of knowledge.
Today I can murmur dejectedly because I have to do housework or...I can feel honored because the Lord has provided shelter for my mind, body and soul.
Today stretches ahead of me, waiting to be shaped.
And here I am, the sculptor who gets to do the shaping.
What today will be like is up to me.
I get to choose what kind of day I will have!
-- Author Unknown
I have responsibilities to fulfill today. I am important. My job is to choose what kind of day I am going to have.
Today I can complain because the weather is rainy or...I can be thankful that the grass is getting watered for free.
Today I can feel sad that I don't have more money or...I can be glad that my finances encourage me to plan my purchases wisely and guide me away from waste.
Today I can grumble about my health or...I can rejoice that I am alive.
Today I can lament over all that my parents didn't give me when I was growing up or...I can feel grateful that they allowed me to be born.
Today I can cry because roses have thorns or...I can celebrate that thorns have roses.
Today I can mourn my lack of friends or ...I can excitedly embark upon a quest to discover new relationships.
Today I can whine because I have to go to work or...I can shout for joy because I have a job to do.
Today I can complain because I have to go to school or...eagerly open my mind and fill it with rich new tidbits of knowledge.
Today I can murmur dejectedly because I have to do housework or...I can feel honored because the Lord has provided shelter for my mind, body and soul.
Today stretches ahead of me, waiting to be shaped.
And here I am, the sculptor who gets to do the shaping.
What today will be like is up to me.
I get to choose what kind of day I will have!
-- Author Unknown
life lesson
The train has started moving. It is packed with people of all ages, mostly with the working men and women and young college guys and gals. Near the window, seated a old man with his 30 year old son. As the train moves by, the son is overwhelmed with joy as he was thrilled with the scenery outside...
"See dad, the scenery of green trees moving away is very beautiful"
This behavior from a thirty year old son made the other people feel strange about him. Every one started murmuring something or other about this son. This guy seems to be a krack... newly married Anup whispered to his wife.
Suddenly it started raining... Rain drops fell on the travelers through the opened window. The Thirty year old son, filled with joy, see dad, how beautiful the rain is ..."
Anup's wife got irritated with the rain drops spoiling her new suit.
Anup," cant you see its raining, you old man, if your son is not feeling well get him soon to a mental asylum. and don't disturb public henceforth".
The old man hesitated first and then in a low tone replied " we are on the way back from hospital, my son got discharged today morning , he was a blind by birth, last week only he got his vision by a very kind person who wished to donate his eyes after his death. These rain and nature are new to my son's eyes.. Please forgive us for the inconvenience caused..."
Moral :
The things we see may be right from our perspective until we know the truth. But when we know the truth our reaction to that will hurt even us. So try to understand the problem better before taking a harsh action.
Always love people and use things, never love things and use people.
- Author Unknown
"See dad, the scenery of green trees moving away is very beautiful"
This behavior from a thirty year old son made the other people feel strange about him. Every one started murmuring something or other about this son. This guy seems to be a krack... newly married Anup whispered to his wife.
Suddenly it started raining... Rain drops fell on the travelers through the opened window. The Thirty year old son, filled with joy, see dad, how beautiful the rain is ..."
Anup's wife got irritated with the rain drops spoiling her new suit.
Anup," cant you see its raining, you old man, if your son is not feeling well get him soon to a mental asylum. and don't disturb public henceforth".
The old man hesitated first and then in a low tone replied " we are on the way back from hospital, my son got discharged today morning , he was a blind by birth, last week only he got his vision by a very kind person who wished to donate his eyes after his death. These rain and nature are new to my son's eyes.. Please forgive us for the inconvenience caused..."
Moral :
The things we see may be right from our perspective until we know the truth. But when we know the truth our reaction to that will hurt even us. So try to understand the problem better before taking a harsh action.
Always love people and use things, never love things and use people.
- Author Unknown
life lesson
I feared being alone
Until I learned to like
Myself.
I feared failure
Until I realized that I only
Fail when I don't try.
I feared success
Until I realized
That I had to try
In order to be happy
With myself.
I feared people's opinions
Until I learned that
People would have opinions
About me anyway.
I feared rejection
Until I learned to
Have faith in myself.
I feared pain
Until I learned that
it's necessary
For growth.
I feared the truth
Until I saw the
Ugliness in lies.
I feared life
Until I experienced
Its beauty .
I feared death
Until I realized that it's
Not an end, but a beginning.
I feared my destiny,
Until I realized that
I had the power to change
My life.
I feared hate
Until I saw that it
Was nothing more than
Ignorance.
I feared love
Until it touched my heart,
Making the darkness fade
Into endless sunny days.
I feared ridicule
Until I learned how
To laugh at myself.
I feared growing old
Until I realized that
I gained wisdom every day.
I feared the future
Until I realized that
Life just kept getting
Better.
I feared the past
Until I realized that
It could no longer hurt me.
I feared the dark
Until I saw the beauty
Of the starlight.
I feared the light
Until I learned that the
Truth would give me
Strength.
I feared change,
Until I saw that
Even the most beautiful butterfly
Had to undergo a metamorphosis
Before it could fly.
Until I learned to like
Myself.
I feared failure
Until I realized that I only
Fail when I don't try.
I feared success
Until I realized
That I had to try
In order to be happy
With myself.
I feared people's opinions
Until I learned that
People would have opinions
About me anyway.
I feared rejection
Until I learned to
Have faith in myself.
I feared pain
Until I learned that
it's necessary
For growth.
I feared the truth
Until I saw the
Ugliness in lies.
I feared life
Until I experienced
Its beauty .
I feared death
Until I realized that it's
Not an end, but a beginning.
I feared my destiny,
Until I realized that
I had the power to change
My life.
I feared hate
Until I saw that it
Was nothing more than
Ignorance.
I feared love
Until it touched my heart,
Making the darkness fade
Into endless sunny days.
I feared ridicule
Until I learned how
To laugh at myself.
I feared growing old
Until I realized that
I gained wisdom every day.
I feared the future
Until I realized that
Life just kept getting
Better.
I feared the past
Until I realized that
It could no longer hurt me.
I feared the dark
Until I saw the beauty
Of the starlight.
I feared the light
Until I learned that the
Truth would give me
Strength.
I feared change,
Until I saw that
Even the most beautiful butterfly
Had to undergo a metamorphosis
Before it could fly.
today is beautiful days
A blind boy sat on the steps of a building with a hat by his feet. He held up a sign which said: "I am blind, please help." There were only a few coins in the hat.
A man was walking by. He took a few coins from his pocket and dropped them into the hat. He then took the sign, turned it around, and wrote some words. He put the sign back so that everyone who walked by would see the new words.
Soon the hat began to fill up. A lot more people were giving money to the blind boy. That afternoon the man who had changed the sign came to see how things were. The boy recognized his footsteps and asked, "Were u the one who changed my sign this morning? What did u write?"
The man said, "I only wrote the truth. I said what u said but in a different way."
What he had written was:
"Today is a beautiful day & I cannot see it."
Do u think the first sign & the second sign were saying the same thing?
Of course both signs told people the boy was blind. But the first sign simply said the boy was blind. The second sign told people they were so lucky that they were not blind. Should we be surprised that the second sign was more effective?
Moral of the Story:
-> Be thankful for what you have.
-> Be creative. Be innovative. Think differently and positively. Invite the people towards good with wisdom.
A man was walking by. He took a few coins from his pocket and dropped them into the hat. He then took the sign, turned it around, and wrote some words. He put the sign back so that everyone who walked by would see the new words.
Soon the hat began to fill up. A lot more people were giving money to the blind boy. That afternoon the man who had changed the sign came to see how things were. The boy recognized his footsteps and asked, "Were u the one who changed my sign this morning? What did u write?"
The man said, "I only wrote the truth. I said what u said but in a different way."
What he had written was:
"Today is a beautiful day & I cannot see it."
Do u think the first sign & the second sign were saying the same thing?
Of course both signs told people the boy was blind. But the first sign simply said the boy was blind. The second sign told people they were so lucky that they were not blind. Should we be surprised that the second sign was more effective?
Moral of the Story:
-> Be thankful for what you have.
-> Be creative. Be innovative. Think differently and positively. Invite the people towards good with wisdom.
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